Over the past year or so I’ve gotten to know some pretty incredible men. Men who are older than my parents, high schoolers, single, married, divorced, etc. You name it and I feel like I’ve encountered them. One thing that has been pretty consistent the past year is the quality of men I’ve gotten to know.
Just to get this out of the way, I have the most amazing dad and brothers a girl could ask for. They’ve been around my entire life and just continue to amaze me more and more with every passing year. The men in my extended family are fantastic as well. Solid men who love the LORD and are super fun.
That being said, I met a few guys in Nashville who weren’t complete idiots or d-bags. Most of them though couldn’t be relied on in times of trouble or when you thought someone was breaking into your house or there was a tornado in the middle of the night. I knew probably a dozen or so that were truly worth their weight in gold. The whole Nichols Management crew (boss and artists included), the Caldwell boys, Belmont boys (inclusive of the famlee) and the Shelby houses.
But when I moved back to Colorado things changed. Maybe it’s because I didn’t have a large circle of acquaintances, I invested in just a couple guys quite a bit. Guys that would come on group trips, guys who are always aware of the surroundings especially when I’m with them, guys that made me feel safe and protected any time they were around. And guys that cared enough about my heart to fight for it. To not let me pull any of my old stunts and make me sort through to the root of the problem. I’d never had a male peer fight for my heart before and now I had a handful of guys who cherished my heart so much that I knew I could trust them when they pushed.
There’s something that only a man can do to a woman’s heart. I’m not just talking about romantically either. I do fully believe that when a woman knows she’s loved by a man the very essence of who she is. I’ve seen it all too many times not to believe how a woman can change from love.
But I’ve also seen and personally experienced the kind of change that happens to a woman when good men fight for her. When they honor, respect, treasure, and protect her. I became a better woman because the men in my life loved me so well. I began to expect that I was only worthy of rejection from men even in a friendship context. But these men showed me differently. These men showed me that because I am the most precious daughter of the High King that I am worth someone risking everything they have.
These men taught me that I am lovely, lovable, worthy, and wanted. They taught me to allow a man to hold the door or walk me to my car. They taught me that it’s okay to be my messy self in front of them. They taught me that they’d rather have the real version of who I am then some fake perfect girl who never says awkward things. They taught me to wait for the man who literally has tunnel vision when he sees me. They taught me that it’s okay to ask for help and actually, they like it when I ask them to open the can or carry a box. They taught me that there still are men out there that love the LORD passionately. That they may not have a perfect story and they may not say the right things all the time, and they’ll probably forget I’m a girl and make a really inappropriate joke, but that they are trying to let others love all of them as well. And if I meet a man who is half as amazing as Robby, Don, Michael, Roy, and Jim I’ll be a lucky lucky girl.
So here’s to you guys – how different things are in a year but I couldn’t wish better stories for each of you right now. I’ve seen how good the LORD is through the way you love so well. I respect you guys more than you know.