Once upon a time. We all know those words, huh? I bet you’re already quoting the end of the story. And they all lived Happily Ever After. Those words are so ingrained in our minds we probably can’t remember a time we didn’t know them.
We all know the beginning of our story. It started with once upon a time. The part we’re really trying to figure out? Where Happily Ever After is. We know there are temptations, thorny briar patches, moats and castles and dragons. We expect those things.
It’s that elusive ending we want. How long until Happily Ever After? Do I get Happily Ever After? Who is my Happily Ever After? I was promised Happily Ever After. I’m waiting for Happily Ever After.
And gracious do we wait. We wait in solitude or we wait in company. We pick what we think is Happily Ever After. We grow impatient and start trying to create Happily Ever After.
But what we haven’t been told is that Happily Ever After doesn’t exist. I know, I know, I sound like a cynic. Believe me, I’m far from one. But Happily Ever After doesn’t exist. It never existed. Which is part of our problem.
We make these choices because we’re waiting for an empty promise the world made years ago. We’ve bought into the biggest scam of all time. The scam of Happily Ever After.
And that scam wrecks us. It destroys the potential for something better than Happily Ever After. We’re so caught up in fairy-tales that we miss out on reality. Eventually we become so disillusioned to the point of despair that we end up settling.
We’re caught in the tension between Fairy Tale and Reality.
So how do we do it? How do we figure out how our reality is supposed to be better than Happily Ever After?
Well I guess that’s why there is a Part 2.
I’m starting this new series called The Love Scam. I promise it’s not as cynical as you think. I want to really dive into how our perceptions of fairy-tales and happily every after changed our expectations of love and how to recover from this. We’re going to look at a few different aspects of this as I’m prone to do.
First up – The plot. Let’s figure out if we’re in The Notebook or Braveheart and what that story has communicated to us and continues to communicate to us.
Then we’ll head to the Ladies. Now that we know what story we’re in, let’s dive into what our role in the story is. This includes what we’ve been told about our purpose and our identity.
Guys, you’re not getting out of this one unscathed. You’ve got a big role too. And I think it’s time to break it down for you.
We’ll tie up some of the loose ends with how our characters intertwine and what that means for us as broken people searching for companionship. As always, I’m not just writing to you, but for me too. So let’s figure it out together.